The Prepared Singles

  Live real, talk real, behave real. Do not claim someone fame. Be yourself. When you be yourself people or a person can know where to help you from. So is good to be real. You see as a single, you need to discover yourself, you need to have vision for life, we need to have goals in life. Have purpose for living. Know what you can do with ease in life, what you enjoy doing. Be real in life, with people and get the result of realness from life. Because what you sow is what you reap.

Don't allow emotion to be in charge of you in a serious relationship that can Iead to marriage. Emotion can make you not to face reality in your relationship. Imagine a relationship that can produce a sickler as a product and the doctor is telling you people that, this will be a problem, you people said we love each other let's go ahead with our life and marry. Not hearing the doctor, the church and ignoring the test result. You went ahead married and brought a child into this world to suffer, why? Is it what true love means? If you were born a sickler into this world how will you feel? Let's not allow our emotion to ride us in a good relationship. I thought if you allow your emotion to be in charge it becomes infatuation. Please let's allow knowledge to rule us in everything we do.

Is of ultimate importance to understand the wiring of both genders. Men have their wiring design behavior, so those the women. Lets look at some of these differential genders wiring. Females can verbally express their emotions than males. Women also exhibit a stronger emotional response to the anticipation of pain. Males are more likely to die from an accident than females. Because men are more likely to take risks and overestimate their ability. Males are more likely to exhibit aggression physically while females are more likely to exhibit aggression verbally. Men have a stronger reaction to sexual infidelity, while women have a stronger reaction to emotional infidelity. Women use both side of the brain to respond to emotional experiences while men use just one. Women read subtle emotion better than men. Men thrive in conflict, women avoid it Males are aroused under stress while females are turned off. Men and women use different parts  of the brain during sexual arousal.

The best time to break out of addiction or addictions that can determine your marriage, is or are when you are still single. Am talking about addiction you formed before marriage. Habittual addictions like mastubation; driving sexual satisfaction by yourself, watching pornography and during process can mastubate, lust, deep lust, furnication; whether in the heart or in the physical, immoral pattern of thinking, whether sexual or wickedly etc, can destroy our lives and destinies. It can also destroy marriages. And that is why is best you need to seriously start working hard on yourself. You need to be determined to break out. God will help you, if you ask Him, but, you need to show God that you are ready to break out of that habit or habits. The person having that uncontrollable deep habitual addition of lust when single, whether acting openly or secretly, or boldly or timidly will still do it if married. And lust is a sin, but a sin can become habitual, and can also become ones charact

Let me start by defining dictionary wise, what virginity and virtue are. Virginity is the state of being a virgin. While virgin is a person who has never had sex. Virtue ( formal) dictionary meaning is behavior or attitudes that show high moral standards. From the above, you now know what virginity and virtue are. Now, the place of your virginity and virtue should be high. Don't joke with your virginity, take it serious. Don't allow someone who is not your partner, have sex with you. They only one permitted to break your virginity is your husband. Place your virginity in a place of value. Virtue is very important, even as a virgin. Your virginity is worthless without virtue. Another dictionary meaning of virtue is a particular good quality of habit.  a woman of virtue is a woman of value and a woman of valuable possession. So, as a man, as a woman, develop a mindset of virtue. As a man you can be a virgin too. As a woman, don't put your trust on your virginity for marriage.

Singles and married, see beyond. As a single, you need to see beyond the now, present and today. Many young people today want it now. They want it already made, quick, sharp, fast and today. So, they end up, seeing just the now. One of the problem with this young people is their mindset. Another ones is their understand and orientation towards life. As a single intending to marry, you need to understand that is not all about the present. Maybe, a man approach you, and seriously having the intention to marry you. But the appearance of the man may not be that good, or, his speaking capacity may not be enticing. So, you end up, summing up the man by his present state. Singles and married, you need to develop a strong character of respect for people, irrespective of the way the look, talk, dress, and what have you. Having a strong character of respect for people, here, am talking about, does not mean allowing people take advantage of you negatively. Or, does not mean allowing people influe